Dan, I won't be allowing this to be posted on my wall because of the private personal nature of the contents. But I will keep it, though privately. I grieve for you and what you're going through. What hurts is that I STILL LOVE MY WIFE. In many ways, I cannot come to admit that we are divorced. I keep thinking of the verse in scrptures that says "What God has joined together, let no man (or civil court) put asunder". This is the part I'm having to wrestle with.
My wife has physical custody of my girls (we have joint custody) and I keep a close eye on her behaviour and what she says/does in front of them. If ever I get any indication of any abuse, I will file for full custody. They have expressed time and time again the fact that they want to live with me. They also have said they noticed how mommy changed in this last year. It's all too sad for me to think about sometimes. I will pray for you and your situation that it may improve. In the meantime, cast the mountain into the sea. God can overcome this.